marriage can it work

Subject: marriage can it work Fri May 08, 2009 11:33 am

Iam working on a book title"Marriage can it really work". What is your view on marriage and what lead you to this view.would you recommend it to your worst enemy or only to your best friends.

Subject: Re: marriage can it work Fri May 08, 2009 12:55 pm

Well thats kind of a tough one considering what males and females are like these days. Personally; I strongly believe in marriage, once two people understands each other and are willing to compromise, it will work. What I think has caused failures in marriages these days are lack of communication, lust and greed,no one wants to compromise and too much pretending in relationships. Its not healthy to any relationship for the parties involved to pretend, be yourself and if the other persons cannot accept you for who you are, simply forget it, don't even bother with the marriage. Lets look at a situation where the courtship is in full bloom. Guy took girl to movies,open car door for girl on all occasions, take girl over the 14 parishes or the entire world, call girl everyday, and you name it... then Woman wash man clothes, cook is food everyday, take good care of man and all the nice stuff during courtship.

Then Hell bruk loose when married. Now why did hell bruk loose? Guess what, all the nice stuff that were coming from the giving end of both parties were simply fake. It was not real. The man may not even believe in opening a car door for the lady, but initially in the relationship he will do so as he simply want to get her.

the same goes for the woman.
You know, HR professionals believe in a motto that states: Attract, maintain and Retain. The way that I see it is " If the things that men and women do to attract each other, they simply maintain what they have started, they will retain the relationship and the marriage will last until death do they part. Hence I would recomend marriage to all my friends and enemys. Enemys I hope I dont have, but I would recommend marriage. Thats my 2cents.

Subject: Re: marriage can it work Wed May 13, 2009 6:58 am

What i dont understand who brought compromise into marriage all of a sudden marriage is about who and when we compromise. Now this is what i dont understand their are Godly guidelines to marriage ,its not about what he believe or prefer its a principle just like P.O.B. Now i have definetely the reason why it does not work, but as a man that find it hard to be faithful, even though no more i refrain from saying. All this car door open and all that non-sense why not let me cash all your pay checks.When you met me i was not working so after the marriage tell me to stay home the whole thing women need to find what their secret is and everything will be all right.Enimies i have alot its not who i choose to be my enemy its who chose me to be theirs,and for that reason ,marriage is too good for me to encourage them to do it.